If you've never consistently identified with either introverted or extroverted characteristics, this could be the end to all your confusion.
There are so many of us who have gone through the list of qualities for both introverts and extroverts only to find that there are characteristics within each that we do and don't identify with.
People at work think you’re very quiet and therefore introverted, while your family and friends at home think you’re the life of the party, and therefore extroverted. Or perhaps during your high school years, your classmates thought you had no voice at all, but were pleasantly surprised at how much you really can talk in a group setting.
So if you’ve been confused about whether or not you are an introvert or extrovert your entire life, we’re here to tell you that you could be an ambivert. Think of introversion and extroversion as two points on the edge of a spectrum and you, with what you may have thought were mismatched qualities, fall perfectly into the centre of this spectrum.
Which is great because ambiverts possess advantages that those at the extreme ends of the scale lack.
Here are 7 signs that you’re a typical ambivert
1. Big crowds are okay. And no crowd is okay too.
You don’t mind being amongst lots of people and strangers. You may however, be happier not interacting with these people. Sitting in the middle of the busy food court in a mall, not talking to anyone is quite alright with you.
2. Small talk is okay. And in depth and intimate conversations are too.
While ambiverts are more drawn to topical conversations with meaning and interest, you are able to handle small talk too. Talking about The Weather” or “The Kardashians” don’t bring about feelings of anxiety but find yourself usually immersed in The World and all its things.
3. Loud people are okay. Quiet people are okay too.
You can hang out (and be comfortable) with any type of personality. In fact, if you’re with someone with lots of energy, you become more reserved, while if you’re with a more reserved person, you’ll help them come out of their shell in a non-intrusive way of course.
At the same time, you’re able to read different people’s personalities pretty accurately too. This is especially because you’re able to identify with both, so you know what’ll make them tick and what will make them more comfortable.
4. Group projects are okay. Individual projects are too.
As an ambivert, you honestly don’t mind working in a team, and you’re able to complete a solo project too. In fact, there is something to enjoy in both.
5. Your best memory is that party. And that time you were alone.
Ambiverts enjoy both a wild party and an intimate dinner. You’re fine staying home alone cuddled with a book, good movie or video game. You are completely satisfied by both scenarios.
6. New people and new places are okay. New people in new places aren’t.
You are more comfortable in a space where there is at least one familiar thing. For example, you don’t mind going to a new place as long as someone you’re familiar with goes along too. Also, you are able to meet a whole bunch of new people, as long as your surroundings are familiar.
7. There’s a tug of war inside
Because you’re comfy with busy and quiet, loud and soft, staying in and going out, you can adapt to your surroundings and adjust your energy level accordingly. You have a keen sense of knowing what type of behaviour is appropriate in any given situation.
As a professional, this is very important as you can discern when the situation calls for you to speak up, hold your tongue, take action, or just observe. You have several options up your sleeve, each of which can be played naturally.
At the same time, it is important to find the right balance; too much socialising can leave you feeling drained; too much alone time can make you feel lonely and withdrawn.